When it comes to giving the girl you are with a truly incredible and memorable orgasm, there is a lot you need to know. You will first need to learn quite a few things before you can be the stud she needs you to be in the bedroom. The more of this information you get, the happier you will make her.
To hear a woman say she achieved a vaginal orgasm is a rare occurrence. Historically, there has been a large knowledge gap when it comes to the science of female orgasms. The same study found that less than 1 in 5 women are able to orgasm through vaginal stimulation.
The essays range from first-person stories about orgasms, blunt advice "kiss my nipples"and hilarious, drawn-out metaphors about knights and quests. I wanted to start a dialogue about how women achieve sexual pleasure, something that is often ignored, devalued, or misunderstood. They're all worth a read, whether you're looking for some new things to try or you're in desperate need of pointers.
No one actually needs to rally for the wonders of an orgasm when there's enough research—as psychologist and sex therapist Mary Jo Rapini explains—that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and decrease stress and anxiety. But when there's still a wide "pleasure gap" to bridge today—the term describing the slim number of women who experience orgasms during sex in relation to men—the main question is how. Below, we consulted advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists, on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without giving up your primal right to come. A study in the journal Hormones and Behavior shows that an increases in the "love drug" oxytocin helped couples have more intense orgasms.
Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex.
Happy National Orgasm Day! Yup, July 31 is the one day of the year dedicated to praising orgasms. Although fun holidays like this one and others in the same vein—National Margarita Day, anyone?
Speaking as a male, I can't think of anything that remotely equals the thrill of an orgasm. What's weird is that, for all the attention it receives, the male orgasm doesn't get talked about in much detail despite the fact that there can be a huge difference in intensity from one to the next. My guess is that the most women don't know this. With this information gap in mind, I set out to discover what, exactly, makes for the most bone-rattling, foundation-shaking male orgasms, and what women can do to encourage their arrival.
In my 20s, I was oddly committed to seeking out my orgasms from other people a notoriously unreliable source. I understand having to work through shame and body issues before becoming completely comfortable with self-pleasure, but I really recommend doing whatever unblocking you need to start to pushing your own buttons ASAP. But you have to promise to control your inner Cersei; a person can get drunk off this much power.
The expectations surrounding giving and having orgasms can make people feel inadequate or even strangers to their own bodies, especially for those who have never had an orgasm. Everybody wants to have better orgasmslonger orgasmsfaster orgasmsmore intense orgasmsg-spot vs. Being able to get your partner or yourself to climax over and over again has become a standard qualifier for good sex versus bad sex.