Some men I spoke to recounted experimentations with straight friends that ranged from watching porn together to jerking each other off, and for the ones who now identify as gay, these episodes reverberate intensely. As on Grindr, many BateWorld profiles are arrestingly frank about their interests, and in a lexicon as rich as it is specific. I am likely both too repressed and too vanilla to ever be a gooner of any distinction, but the term speaks to the existence of a community of men for whom masturbation is a serious and important aspect of their sexuality. New members receive a 7-day premium membership trial to whet their appetites. My own scattered, teenage experiments were furtive and secret, and made me feel a deep and long-lasting shame about my own interest. Jerking off or talking about doing so with someone else was as close as I could get at the time to admitting same-sex desire, by labeling it simple boyish curiosity.
Kylie. Age: 20.
Shoes and nothing else is an odd look, but the strangeness of it faded after a few minutes, and I stopped noticing.
Giana. Age: 23.
Why Some Guys Like Jerking Off Together
Now we get together every few months — less regularly than a book club but more often than you see your best friend from college who lives in Washington Heights — hang out, and masturbate. Maybe many do, but universalizing my own desires was my only avenue to self-acceptance. My own scattered, teenage experiments were furtive and secret, and made me feel a deep and long-lasting shame about my own interest.