This incongruence with identity and behavior can be disorienting. Ashamed or afraid of judgment, we say that we slept with a man. Sometimes sober, sometimes not.
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S traight men have long had a fascination with lesbianism. Tap the word into Google and you can see the range of porn available, from "Naughty girls sharing their Huge Toy", to "Vicky and Nea need no men". I have lost count of the number of times men have asked me what I "do in bed".
Today, a reader, who has always liked girls, finds herself crushing on a guy. What should she do? I'm twenty years old, and I'm a lesbian. I recognize that there are some gorgeous boys out there, but I've never felt anything for them--and I've totally had feelings for girls.
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I was in a bar in Chicago when I told a close friend of 20 years that, despite being a lesbian, I was marrying a man. She laughed, dismissively. But no one had presumed to relabel me, to retrofit me to their categories — at least, not to my face.
This piece was originally published at TheLStop. Within every lesbian community there exists a tale as old as time, a proverb as common as it is contentious: Bi women cheat, betray, and ultimately leave — never for another woman, but for a man. Like those who flee the tumults of city life for quieter and less complicated pastures, bisexual women may seem destined, in the eyes of gay women, to trade the grit and hardships of queer life for the suburbs of heteroville. But is this really because we prefer a life of white-picket simplicity and comfort?
Before I met and married my husband, I was with my ex for 15 years, but only married for 6 months. That's because I was with a woman when California legalized same-sex marriage. We had been the iconic lesbian couple: an artist and a writer — teachers and activists.